Just Like Riding a Bike...
In an effort to keep my temple in working order, I decided to ride my bike today. This is the same bike that I was so eager to get last year because I just knew it would take my body to the next level. This is the same bike that I took around the block one time in my Maryland neighborhood and felt defeated not knowing how to properly utilize the gears. This is the same bike that rested on my balcony through thunderstorms and snowstorms waiting for me to take it on a ride.
Like everyone else, I'm very familiar with the phrase: it's just like riding a bike. Let me tell it, I learned how to ride my first bike at an extremely young age with barely any assistance. I was bound for greatness as I took off my training wheels and managed to ride with few hiccups. I was fearless as I paraded up and down the street with my friends in our suburban neighborhood. I attempted wheelies, sped down treacherous hills, and hopped over potholes with all the grace of a young girl with no cares. I've known how to ride a bike for probably over 20 years now and this ride today was the most freeing.
I've put off riding my bike more recently because I haven't had a partner. Cherelle has been my biking partner. We pick the destination, she leads the way and ensures that we make it back safely. Due to life, she doesn't always want to nor have the capacity to ride when I would like to. This being said, I opt out, allowing my bike to sit for another day secretly praying that she will want to go on an adventure soon.
Today was different. I decided to stop waiting on someone else's timing to do what I knew was right for me. Today was a 5 mile ride around the city without my GPS or any true knowledge of where I wanted to go. To be honest, I had absolutely no clue where I was headed but I just prayed that I would make it back safely. I spent the next 40 minutes just pushing forward with my hair in the wind. For the next 40 minutes, I had no cares about what people were thinking of me. I had no worries about what was going on outside of the moment. I enjoyed my company which was my own solitude.
It hit me during that ride that life is a lot like riding a bike. Some tasks seem incredibly easy and maybe at one point they actually were. But then life happens and the things you once loved, seem like chores that are almost impossible to conquer. Talents are placed on the backburner because there are more important things to do. Relationships are ended because of someone not fully knowing their own self let alone another person. Opportunities are missed because we fail to open our ears and hear the persistent knock. We put our life, our own bike, away.
My bike ride reminded me that I can't be complacent with waiting. I can't wait for anyone to tell me that I'll find my way back and won't scrape my knee in the process...I have to go...NOW. The things that are meant for you in life aren't done at your convenience or at the urging of those you hold close. Sometimes you have to go even when you're not sure of your final destination. I can't tell you how many opportunities I've missed because I didn't see the whole picture. To go along with the bike analogy...many paths have been presented to me but because of my lack of knowledge...I chose more common paths. From my imperfect vision, I saw roads with countless puddles and traps so I opted for the more well lit path. I chose my current comfort over what I was destined for. What I didn't realize is that this tough path was actually leading me to where I needed to be at that exact moment.
Life is hard especially when you're presented with choices that can make or break you. Leaving the person who abuses you mentally, walking away from the job that over works you, ending a friendship that doesn't sow into you, and doing something completely out of your known character can all be tough decisions. For myself it's a mixture of not wanting to fail but also not allowing people to see me fail. More so than being afraid of being lost or injured on my solo bike ride, I was afraid of people knowing that I feared doing something that was so easy to others.
A lot of things could have happened today but they didn't. Never let your fear or even the fear of going alone keep you from doing what you want or need to do. Don't allow life to pass you by as you wait for someone else to drag you along for their own adventure. Be fearless, be resilient but most importantly be true to what you want even it frightens you. Learn to ride that bike again.