Living Under the Influence
If you had to judge your life on a scale of 1 through 10, what would you rate it? Since we are friends and I like to keep it real with you all, I'm going to give myself a humble 6. Not on the terribly low end but it still has room for growth. I started thinking about my quality of life and exactly what it means to me.
When I've heard the term, quality of life, it has usually been referenced when someone's time on this earth is nearing an end. These people make a feverish attempt to make the most of their borrowed time. They go on adventures that have been on their calendar for decades, they contact the woman who never escaped their memory, they forgive the person who betrayed them, and they do this because at this point..they have nothing to lose. What if we lived everyday with this mindset? What if we always made the effort to shoot our shot?
I just returned from this amazing trip to London and Madrid on Thurday night. I have now ventured to eight different countries and had countless experiences. I was so full while on vacation, I was unphased by my own shortcomings and decided to enjoy myself. I decided to live and not think twice about the what ifs and why nots. I knew that this vacation was just another get away from a real life that I'd soon have to return to. No more tapas in the evening, no beer at English pubs, no more dancing until the sun came up, no more life talks overlooking a palace with my best friend...this would all disappear when vacation was over. I'd take a seven hour flight back into my 6 on a scale of 1 through 10 life at 5:10pm, London time.
My life looks great. So great that people are often telling me that they wish they could live one like it. I've been blessed with a full life but what does it matter if you don't understand the true value? I have so much but still rate my life a measly, weak, low 6? My life was a 6 because outside of traveling to different countries, having friends who are God sent, family that makes me laugh, talents willing to take me far...I was only focused on what I didn't have. I don't have a job I completely love, my hair isn't down the middle of my back, I don't have my own family like my friends, my body still doesn't look like Beyoncé's(never will), and I haven't figured out a plan to change as many lives as possible. I've lived a life constantly chasing after something that wasn't owed to me: someone else's life. The issue with chasing someone else's happily ever after is that you miss out on your own blessings. You're so fixated on what you feel like you missed out on that you don't see all the things you're lucky to have. Living like this can lead to two very destructive traits- being envious and ungrateful.
This morning in church, the pastor talked about living an abundant life. A life so big that it overflows, touches other people, and encourages them to live their best life. My life is overflowing but it wasn't touching the person who mattered most-Kamil. I know my life is great but I'm also fully aware that I haven't done my part to take myself to the next level. Like the pastor said, God provided us a first class ticket for a life that I'm sure none of us have paid the full price to receive. The universe has worked in your favor for you to have a big life not one that lacks fullness and purpose.
If you had to reflect on your life right now...would you be satisfied? If you are giving yourself anything less than a 10 then you my friend are: Living Under the Influence .
You're living under an imaginary force field that has told you that you don't deserve a big, bright, and bold life. How disappointed would you be in your final day on this beautiful earth to think and say that life was just okay? I'm sure you'd feel as if you were sold short and deserved a do over..You don't buy shoes from Nike and when they fall apart at the sole say, no biggie ... I'll let my money go to waste. You don't order food at your favorite spot and when they give you half your food say, it's cool...I don't want what I paid for. Why would you live your life any other way? Why would you settle for below when you could have above and beyond?
Today is your do over. You don't have to wait until you're 65 or diagnosed with a life altering disease...you just have to decide that today is the last day that you settle. Today is the last day that you live your life within someone else' standards. Today is the last day that you mold your presence and future based on your family's past. Today is the last day that you believe the lie that average is just enough and you don't deserve more. Life is too short or too long to be on a constant lookout for a way out.
Live a life that you're proud of and breaks the scale. One that doesn't make people envious but inspires them to chase their dreams. My life is centered around faith, family, friends, and using my passion to help other people. This may not be what your life is about but find your it. Live in your truth and inspire others to do the same. Pick today to live an extraordinarily big life and make no apologies about it. Trust me, you'll thank yourself later.